Hey guys!
Before I share my tip of the day, I want to share with you guys a great optical illusion I found the other day:
Now why is this relevant to today’s tip?
A lot of men today, in the face of a problem, resort to drastic measures. They call their ex girlfriends tens and sometimes even hundreds of times a day, waiting for their chance to beg, to say they’re sorry, to ask for a second chance. As you a reading this, ponder this: imagine if you broke up with your girlfriend a few days ago – would it help her chances if she is calling you 20 times a day? Or, would you even pick up the phone?! I think the most common answer is NO.
You see, just like this optical illusion, many of us fail to see the bigger picture in our relationships. The truth is, it is not always about us (as humans, we are too self-centered) – it’s about her too. Many men fail to realize that a breakup may just be an indicator that she needs some space and some time on her own.
So here’s the tip for you guys: do not be clingy, under any circumstances.
Clingyness both undermines our position as males – we are supposed to be the confident protectors – as well as violating her very reason to break up in the first place – her need for space.
Trust me, guys. No matter how compelled you feel to call her, to text her, to tell her you’re sorry – don’t do it. Even if you are truly the one at fault, do not do it excessively. The first step in getting your ex girlfriend back is not only showing her that you respect her space, but also that you respect your own dignity.
Do NOT be clingy.
If you don’t choose to follow this advice, let the fact that she did not answer any of your 20 phone calls be your answer.
Until next time,
The Love Doctor.

